Christy Nesja
On behalf of Tom's dear friend, Lloyd Cornue, and Lloyd's children, we want to share our sincere sympathy upon Tom's passing. If Lloyd was able to write this himself, he would want everyone to know that he misses Tom more than words can say. We hope that by sharing a little bit about our family and the last decade of Tom's life, you will be comforted to know that Tom enjoyed good company and care.
Tom and Lloyd met in 2016, and over the past 10 years, Tom became an adopted member of our family in Wisconsin. Tom and Lloyd shared a special bond and companionship. They liked to travel and go out for dinner, but they were just as content watching classic movies on TV, or sitting quietly on the screen porch enjoying the sounds of nature. For many years, Tom helped care for Lloyd who has Parkinson's Disease. Tom did most of the cooking, and helped Lloyd manage his medications and get to doctor appointments. Tom's care allowed Lloyd to live independently in his own home for many more years than we thought possible — and for this we are incredibly grateful. Tom was included in all our family gatherings, and he was surrounded by love and activity.
When COVID-19 hit, Lloyd and Tom were together in their own "pod," along with Lloyd's sister-in-law, Bonnie. It gave us great comfort to know these three were not alone during those strange times. They shared meals at each other's homes, and Bonnie and Tom enjoyed lively games of Scrabble. As the years advanced, Bonnie became someone Tom relied on to take him to doctor appointments and help him with errands.
In late 2023, as Tom and Lloyd's health declined, we helped them transition and move to an excellent assisted living facility. They shared a two bedroom, two bathroom suite and continued to live with some independence, but greater onsite care. In January 2025, they moved next door into a higher level of care at the same facility — this included Memory Care for Lloyd. Tom did not have to move, but he insisted on being with Lloyd. For the past year Tom and Lloyd had their own rooms right next to each other. They saw each other daily and shared meals together. We visited them regularly, and brought in special food on holidays and for their birthdays.
If Lloyd could travel, he would have been at Tom's funeral, and he would have wanted that more than anything. We are planning to have a small, family service in Tom's memory with a local pastor in the coming weeks. Lloyd sends his love to all, as do we.
In Sympathy and Love,
Lloyd Cornue
Christy Nesja
Carrie Crispigna
John Cornue
