Alfred Grasso
Raymond Voter was my father in law. I first met Raymond in 1975 when Melanie and I started dating. I quickly realized that he was a great father, devoted husband, and loyal friend to many. Always so genuinely involved in family activities such as: celebrating birthdays and holidays, vacations, cookouts, school and sporting events, and of course, attending dance programs and recitals. I was so impressed with his expertise and ingenuity in building props and stage scenery for annual recitals. He was the ultimate “Jack of All Trades” in my eyes. More importantly, he was one of the kindest, gentle hearted, generous, and selfless persons I’ve known (except on his 85th surprise birthday party that Ashley threw him where he was the center of attention). I don’t think I’ve ever seen him really angry, except when I heard how upset he was when he was unable to get a “snack” during his recent hospitalization. He wanted the hospital’s CEO fired!
Grandchildren were paramount to his life. Our 2 sons, Nick and Dan loved being with Grandpa. I was so amazed by how much time, energy, and especially love he devoted to his granddaughter Ashley during her early developmental years. Today Ashley is so vibrant and accomplished largely due to Raymond’s influence. He was a marvelous nurturing mentor. When Melanie and I adopted our 2 daughters, Julia in 2004, and Aiyanna in 2005, Raymond was again ready for “additional grandpa duties”. About 2 weeks before his passing, Raymond received the beautiful news from our son Dan and his wife Kerri, that he was going to be a “GREAT GRANDPA “ in November. This was truly a blessing for Raymond.
I have many memories of Raymond that I’ll cherish forever. Trips to Florida and our cabin in Ellijay, Georgia. I can still vividly see him indulging in “a little extra bacon “ (smirk on his face) while at the buffet line on a family cruise. We all knew his passion for eating. I loved cooking for him. Whether breakfast, lunch, or dinner, he would always comment “the food was delicious”, regardless of how it actually came out. He was such a gentleman and the ultimate optimist.
Raymond was the best storyteller. He loved talking about childhood memories with his brother John, and sisters Phyllis and Ruth. His hunting and fishing “tales”, and war stories were my favorites. He was a true patriot who loved his country. Whenever I see anyone in uniform or military clothing, I acknowledge their service and PROUDLY announce my father in law Raymond served as a Navy SEABEE during the Korean War.
I remember his description of his Honor Flight trip to Washington DC., that he took with his beloved son Ray. He said he got goosebumps as he and other honorees were greeted and saluted at the airport by spectators and “military brass”. I’m certain it was a highlight of his life.
We all know of his love for casinos. He was always looking to “hit the jackpot or win the lottery”. While Raymond may have never been that lucky in the casinos, we all know he definitely hit the lottery in life!
It was a blessing for Raymond to have been surrounded at his bedside by loving family when he courageously and peacefully passed. He recently endured difficult medical challenges, but always had a smile on his face and positive attitude. His legacy remains forever. It was my honor and privilege to have know such an amazing man. Rest in peace Raymond, and may God continue to bless you.